Carl Rogers in On Becoming a Person had this to say:
It has gradually been driven home to me that I cannot be of help …by any means of any intellectual or training procedure. No approach which relies upon knowledge, upon training, upon the acceptance of something that is taught, is of any use. These approaches are so tempting and direct that I have, in the past, tried a great many of them. It is possible to explain a person to himself, to prescribe steps that should lead him forward, to train him in knowledge about a more satisfying mode of life. But such methods are, in my experience, futile and inconsequential. The most they can accomplish is some temporary change, which soon disappears, leaving the individual more than ever convinced of their inadequacy.
The failure of any such approach through the intellect has forced me to recognise that change appears to come about through experience in a relationship.
If I can provide a certain type of relationship, the other person will discover within himself the capacity to use that relationship for growth, and change and personal development will occur.
Carl Rogers – On Becoming a Person
- Are you more interested in establishing relationships that will help you to really learn – or in being taught?
- Do you trust yourself to develop your own learning in way that is truly relevant and useful to you – or do you see that as someone else’s job?
- Are you willing to risk engaging in a very different mode of learning based on questionning, enquiry and the personalisation of learning?